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March 4, 2009 at 8:54 PM

Equal parenting-time bill

Bullying dads into unfair custody agreements

DADS Against Discrimination has seen thousands of court cases in which fatherless families are intentionally created by rogue judges. I myself obtained custody of my daughter in 2001 without an attorney.

Yet, the opposing attorney is still permitted to harass and demonize me in court.

Bill Harrington [“Children lose when the law fails to recognize both parents’ rights,” guest column, Feb. 26] makes a misplaced statement.

Sure, 93 percent of final-custody decisions are agreed upon. But, this doesn’t reflect how fathers are bullied into bad agreements after they have spent thousands on rogue-parenting investigators.

The norm is more like a case in Pierce County, in which Judge Stephanie Arend ordered the children be taken from the custodial father and placed with the mother, whose live-in boyfriend is a registered sex offender with three felonies. The mother had a felony for stealing a car from the murder victim of her previous boyfriend. The court also knew the two smoked marijuana around the children.

The only ones who really know how corrupt our family courts are the victimized parents — mostly dads, a few mothers.

These courts will never change until the media expose them for what they really are.

— James Christianson, Federal Way

Always about the money

You have got to be kidding about Washington being a shared-parenting state.

I am a noncustodial father who has now been paying child support for 13 years for a son my ex-wife won’t let me have a relationship with. I tried to get joint custody after she tried to commit suicide, which is why I divorced her in the first place.

The Washington state legal system won’t let fathers have joint custody because they manage hundreds of millions in support dollars — and it’s always been about the money.

I just found out two months ago that our 17-year-old son was allowed to drop out of school before his 15th birthday. No one ever told me; I had to find out on his MySpace page.

Washington state is a joke when it comes to custody law regarding kids of divorce.

— Michael Gary, St. Petersburg, Fla.

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