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September 11, 2014 at 6:33 AM

Reasons why Janay Rice might have stayed

First, it’s not domestic abuse, it’s assault and battery. If Ray Rice had beaten up a stranger, he would be in jail [“Source says Rice video sent to NFL,” Sports, Sept. 10].

Why does Janay Rice stay?  The short answer: fear.

She might be afraid of making things worse for herself and her children because leaving is dangerous. This fear is not misplaced. Remember the late Crystal Brame whose husband shot her in front of her child?

It also might be fear of the future. The man has told her countless times she’s stupid and worthless and can’t make it on her own.  If she didn’t make him so angry, he wouldn’t have to hit her — meaning this is her fault, and he’s not responsible, until finally she believes him.

She also might have the mistaken idea that she can change him if she just tries harder and loves him enough. But sadly the leopard — or the Raven — doesn’t usually change his spots.

That this can happen to a woman like Janay Rice or the singer Rihanna proves that money and privilege are no guarantee of immunity, or safety.

How do we put a stop to this? Speaking out against bullying in the schools would be a good start.

Carol Lake, Kirkland

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