I’ve received a few emails in response to my column about living single in Seattle. The comment thread is interesting, too. Here’s my response to a couple of those messages.
From Betty C., a woman who married at 26 in the 1970s but says times have changed and encourages today’s younger generation to wait:
The unexamined life is not worth living, so slow down and examine your life, environment and the intellect and character of your friends. Getting swept off your feet is stupid and immature. Keep both feet on the ground. Stick to your guns. Choices and options can always be re-examined later, but only if you want to revisit your choices. Do not let anyone push you into a choice of their own liking, but not a choice of YOUR OWN LIKING.
Amen, Betty. Thank you. According to 2011 U.S. Census data, I am one of about 44,000 women age 30 and up in Seattle who have never been married. It’s hard to drown out society’s expectations about marriage and children, but like I said in the column, it’s high time that women (and men) accept equal responsibility for our dating choices. I believe this leads to healthier relationships and better outcomes for families in our community.
Nationwide, 102 million Americans 18 and older — 44 percent of that population — are unmarried, according to the 2011 census. Pew’s research reports that more people are staying single longer. This is sure to have economic and social implications for society.
From another reader who withheld his name:More