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September 10, 2014 at 1:15 PM

After Ray Rice news, abuse survivors tell their stories on Twitter

The news that the NFL ousted Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice for punching his then-fiancée has sparked a national conversation about domestic violence — and the league’s missteps in handling it.

But for all those calling out NFL commissioner Roger Goodell (including Seattle Times sports columnist Jerry Brewer), there are plenty of people throwing shade on Janay Rice for staying with Ray Rice. A sampling from the comments on a story we ran Monday when the elevator video surfaced:

“But what an imbecile to marry him DESPITE his violence!”

“Getting smacked and knocked out by her fiancee was NOT ‘her fault.’ Marrying him despite his violent, abusive behavior, inexcusable behavior IS!”

“… what Rice did was inexcusable, but also the decision for this gal to go ahead marry him is also inexcusable.”

“… she obviously lacks the personal fortitude to stand on her own two feet and tell that jerk to take a hike. It’s very sad, but I won’t waste sympathy on her.”

Attitudes like this prompted abuse survivor Beverly Gooden to create the Twitter hashtag #WhyIStayed, in which survivors of domestic abuse shed light on their experiences — which tend to be more complex than, “Well, just leave.”

Help for domestic-violence survivors

If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
If you have been abused by an intimate partner, call the Washington State Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-562-6025 (voice and TTY)
A variety of agencies in the area offer assistance, including confidential shelters, counseling, child therapy and legal help.
Seattle resources: seattle.gov/humanservices/domesticviolence
King County resources: 206-205-5555 or kingcounty.gov/courts/Clerk/DomesticViolence
King County Coalition Against Domestic Violence: kccadv.org/get-help
Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence: wscadv2.org/infoforvictims.cfm

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